Hello again, friends. This one is going to be a real gem of a post featuring another silly thing a man has said to me: “Will you ever get a boob job?”
Now, this is not an opinion against getting a boob job if its right for you. Seriously, if its what feels right for you, by all means, boob up (or down)! However, this is an opinion about someone asking the question because they are dick enough to outright express their wish for you to look like someone else and they take it upon themselves to tell you do your face.
Let me provide some context to the moment this question came up….
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We had just had sex and we were laying in bed. He brought up the fact that my boobs were not as firm or large as he had appreciated from women at the gym, so he asked if I would get a boob-job to make mine bigger.
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Having never brought up being interested in a boob job before, I was thrown off – especially considering he brought it up by pointing out his negative perceptions of me first. Like, come on man…wtf?
I honestly don’t remember much else about that conversation other than it involved me getting annoyed but being too shocked and lacking in my self-worth to stand up for myself. I vaguely recall wondering if I would have to get one to appease a partner (at the time I was thinking maybe he was the one) or if I would even want one. I can honestly say that while I have moments of insecurity, my breasts are the two things that I have not been worried about in the way of body dysmorphia.
Prior to that comment, I had been fairly proud of my breast size and shape. Heck, I had people compliment me for it before. But, along comes this guy (the first serious boyfriend and yes, the same guy who told me my labia looked weird in a previous post) and he thinks he can say anything. Honestly, with is track record its a miracle I stayed with him as long as I did. That’s what low self-esteem and -worth will do to ya!
Anywho, yeah, I have considered it on and off over the years after seeing some images of women with breasts that may be a touch more perky or symmetrical, but hey, its not for me. Maybe I will reconsider down the line, but for now, they’re just big enough to be a nuisance when buying shirts so I am good or else I will probably have to get my clothes tailored.
The point of this post is to ensure you know what you feel like doing. Ideally, you won’t have some ass who is so insecure in himself that he likes to point out shit he things you should improve so you can think about these things on your own terms. Give yourself time to think, learn about the procedures and work to truly understand why you would make the change. Do you need to reduce them for your health? Do you want to increase because it feels more you than the current way you present?
Please just know that you are beautiful as you are and there is no asshole alive who is allowed to tell you to change because they think you “should”. If its purely for you, go for it! If you are doing it because someone else said you should? Maybe don’t – because you never know how long its going to last with them, and even after you get it done, there is no guarantee that they won’t find something else they think you should change.
Don’t change for anyone but yourself!
I can say that the guy who made those comments ended up leaving me for someone he deemed better than me, but I can confirm that she didn’t have those boobs he was talking about either. He was unhappy, insecure and decided to take it out on me instead of looking to himself.
So again, pleaaaase think through what you are choosing to do for your appearance. If it has anything to do with what other’s want you to do and it doesn’t feel right for you on any other level, it may not bring you the happiness you crave.
You do you and I will be cheering you on in your journey!
Feel free to let me know your thoughts or stories in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!
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Embracing the Feminine 
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